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BELIEVE IN YOURSELF TO SUCCEED

 

You have to believe in yourself. You need to have the audacity to be great.

- Rosie Perez

Know that you are not a failure.

You have the ability to grow, improve, and be great.

You just have to believe in your ability to succeed! Believe in your ability to achieve your goals. . 

No talents, training, or resources in the world can help you overcome your worries and doubts about succeeding- unless you believe in yourself.

You have to empower yourself by having control over your mind. Your weaknesses will come to play, you’ll have bad days and make a lot of mistakes-  don’t let that be what you always focus on-  it kills your confidence

For a good part of my life, I battled with with low self esteem. I struggled to see the good in myself, I struggled to love and embrace myself-  my weakness always took the frontline in my thoughts and I feared I would not get anything much from life.

Although I had potentials, I had little or no belief in myself to achieve greatness- because nothing seems to ever work out.

I hid under a mask of smiles and looking great but deep down I was the least okay. I was sad, scared, hunted by my own thoughts and it sent me down the pit of anger and self pity- where I wallowed for a while.

I know I had great gifts in me-  but I focused on my weaknesses so much that they were nearly invisible to me.

For years I stopped myself before I even tried. I did it because I was afraid.

Told myself repeatedly that I’ll never be good enough-  fear grabbed me, and my beloved goals felt out of reach.

If you can relate to this, you realize it becomes a reflex action to start questioning your knowledge and abilities in everything you do-  the anxiety, drepression, procrastination, lack of motivation, low self esteem, emotional instability, they are real

I experienced imposter syndrome at its peak.

How did I take care of it?

  • Practicing self love

Self love means different things to different people. For me, it was accepting myself for everything I am. Treating myself with kindness and compassion, knowing I have flaws.

I was the harshest critic of myself.  I could forgive other’s mitakes, but I struggled to forgive myself for the ones I made.

I decided to give myself a break from self-judgement- I now talk to, and about myself with love.

I forgave myself for the times I was not true and nice to myself. I know I have to grow through life, and just like raw gold, I would have to go through the fire to become fine.

I now give myself accolades for everytime I perform well, and the ones that aren’t as good, I pat myself and try again.

  • Remembering My Past Achievements

I began to reflect on my past achievements. Times I didn’t know I could pull something so good off, but I did.

If you remember past successes, it is easier for the brain to recreate the past than to create from a blank slate.

Remember past events that made you feel great, they will affect future outcomes- positively

  • Stopped Comparing Myself to Others

“Comparison is the thief of joy!”- This saying rings true in many ways.

Even though most of us try not to, we’re all guilty of comparing ourselves to others.

Most of the times I experience self-doubt, it’s cause I was comparing my accomplishments to someone else’s, it can be paralyzing- the feeling that I am not as great and might not be- but its okay.

I’ve learnt everyone’s journey and ideas of success are different. While other’s stories and lives may motivate me to better-  I try to focus on my own path and let my best motivation be where I was against where I am  and where I want to be.

  • Identifying my Personal Values

Personal values are the measuring sticks by which we determine what is a successful and meaningful life- what are your personal values?

While still discovering my values and what truly matters to me, the comparison to others is now cut short and the fear of criticism from others often falls by the wayside.

  • Spending Time with People who Support Me

When I start feeling self-doubt, I surround myself with people who can remind me of how talented and resilient I am-  my friends and family members who believe in me.

  •  Finding Validation from Within

While it helps to surround yourself with people who believe in you- it won’t do much if you don’t believe in yourself.

I know of times I got constant reassurance from others, but still didn’t believe in myself.

Even if you aren’t the most confident about where you’re at, it’s good to practice accepting your strengths and all that you have to offer.

  • Journaling

I’ve always been bad at journaling. So I found a way around it- instead of writing, I keep voice notes. It’s easier for me.

It’s always a therapeutic exercise to journal. Pouring out my thoughts of self-doubt or experiences with imposter syndrome in a voice recording- always a good release.

It helps to gradually overcome self-doubt.

After you write your concerns down or say them, go through-  and you’ll realize they may not be as detrimental as you thought they were.  

Conclusion


"We all have different things that we go through in our everyday life, and it's really important to know just at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what you face, you know, that you're going to win at the end of the day. You got to believe in yourself. You got to believe in God, know that He's going to get you through it."

- Kelly Rowland

 

 

 

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